September 2, 2011
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To the women out there: If you find a nice guy who treats you right and is everything you look for in a guy, but just because he's not your "type" physically you friend zone him, then shame on you. Hang on to the nice guys, because people like you are the reason they finish last. Then you wind up complaining from all the hot guys who just want to fuck the shit out of you and treat you like dirt with no strings attached for a week or so, then be on their way to the next victim when you get clingy.
Just saying.
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Conversely, shame on nice guys who let themselves be shoved into the friend zone under the pretense that friends is better than nothing. You don't make the situation any better. Oh, she doesn't get to be off the hook, but she's not going to wake up one day and suddenly find herself attracted to you when you're safely ensconced in the friend zone. Nope, she's not even going to think twice about you. Both parties are to blame, and both of them need to move on.
Says the 36 yo woman who always picks the nice guys. Just ask the husbands.
@daeshii - and yet, the danger of not allowing myself to be shoved into the friend zone is that I am never even friends with the person to begin with...says the 22 year old man who's been through that same situation countless times. Plus, she's already picked the asshole over the nice guy without a thought about giving the nice guy a chance. So your point is moot.
Better off being friends than having nothing at all...minimize losses, maximize chances.
@Dustin_wind - My point isn't moot at all. The sheer fact that you continue to allow yourself to be shoved into the friend zone, then complain about not being seen, proves my point completely. It hasn't worked for you in the past, and it's not going to work for you in the future.
But you keep on keeping on. Maybe in the end you'll be right. Maybe you'll meet a girl who shoves you into that black hole and then wakes up one morning realizing that you're the One. And if she does, anytime in the future, as long as we know each other on Xanga, when you get married, I'll have a crisp $100 to send as a wedding present. I'm willing to be wrong.
@daeshii - you do realize I haven't had that happen to me in the past two years right? Everything I've had happen worked out to some extent, and i'm working on something currently so excuse me when I tell you that betting on whether someone will be happy or not is low and uncalled for and below you.
Lastly, this whole thing isn't even about me anyways. Shame on you for assuming it was. I'm perfectly happy by myself, and quite honestly I don't give a rat's ass for anyone out there BUT myself. Now, if there's any other condescending remarks you have to make about me and my life, please go ahead. I'm all ears. Either way, I'm not going to care to read them since I've had just about the worst day of my life today and I'm going to stay away from here and the stupid ass drama.
Now excuse me.
@Dustin_wind - You've missed my point completely, and I apologize only that it came off hostile. That was not my intent.
It was a pleasure knowing you, but you're not interested in my viewpoint. And that's all right. So I'll stop wasting your time and mine.
I wish you nothing but happiness. That has never changed. I'm glad you're happy with yourself.
Have a wonderful life.
STORY OF MY LIFE.
I'm automatically placed into the "friend zone" sadly. :-T. I try so hard to find a connection but they're never interested in me, but rather just keep me as a friend.
@AznBoy659 - Hey man I feel your pain. It happened to me a ton in the past, but it hasn't recently, mainly because I've been focusing on me and my own life, rather than actively searching and going out there looking for someone to spend time with. So I haven't met anyone WORTH getting really worked up about.
The irony is I was so bored tonight, that I actually wished I had a girlfriend, just to talk to about random stuff that actually doesn't matter. Lol.
I did learn that in the year and a half I've been single, that if you can be happy on your own, someone will eventually notice you and they will be interested and want to get to know you. I've got a few potential women I could possibly date in the future that I am talking to at the moment. Nothing serious, just talk. But it fits the theme. I've been happy and 2 women have taken notice.
Most women are too dumb to see whats in front of them though, so you gotta be patient lol
I thought this post was pretty straight forward and kick ass, but then i read the comments and i was
SOLD
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@JazVanF6661 - Hah, that woman who commented on this is an idiot. Lol.
But thank you
@Dustin_wind - I'm going to keep my tongue in my cheek and not respond to that, considering everyone has a right to there own opinion. ahaha Perhaps she just didn't completely understand.
@JazVanF6661 - Haha, you couldn't just agree with me?
But yeah I don't think she did...at all. Lol
If a girl isn't attracted, she isn't attracted.
@Pink_TeaCups - Attraction isn't based purely on looks. The players attract because they are generally good looking and can sweet talk a girl, but never have any real intentions other than getting into the girls pants. If more girls paid attention to who they talk to and how guys act...they'd probably be happier.
@Dustin_wind - You're probably right. Girls are shallow, but so are guys. It's not a strict gender thing. Guys look past me because I'm not obviously attractive, but I won't break their hearts like the more obviously attractive girls will.
Two way street.
@Pink_TeaCups - Yeah I know, I was just saying that pretty much 90% of girls would be happier if they did that. And conversely, 90% of guys don't give a shit as long as they get what they want. The other 10% are like you and I.
If she doesn't have the fuzzy wuzzies for you it's not fault of hers. Have you ever tried to date someone you just didn't feel especially attracted to because they are "nice?"
It doesn't work.
You shouldn't blame them for wanting to pursue their happiness.
In fact it sounds like you aren't a very nice guy if you think a woman is obligated to date you for some reason--even if she doesn't like you that way. You sound like a prick.
@FoliageDecay - You've completely missed my point.
First of all this post was not about me. Shame on you for judging me like that. Secondly, women can choose to date whoever they want, but would be happier if they used their brains instead of their vaginas. They aren't obligated to date a nice guy. You're just putting words in my blog that I never said to begin with.
If anyone's the prick it's you. Sue me for being honest about what I see.
@Dustin_wind - You are accusing women of using their vaginas and not their brains because they wouldn't date YOU.
Who are you to judge whether someone's reasons for attraction are legitimate or not?
@FoliageDecay - Wow, I definitely just said this post wasnt about me you stupid idiot. GTFO my page please.
@Dustin_wind - Sure thing
@Pink_TeaCups - I agree on the part where you said if a girl isn't attracted, she isn't attracted. I love nice guys, and not all good looking guys are assholes.
Shame on you, joe, for calling the first girl an idiot. If you can't accept other people's views, than why even post.
On a lighter note, i just caught up on your blog and know you aren't doing well. In all honesty, it won't get better until you make it better. Which you did say in your other blog. There is obviously something in life that keeps you going. i miss our chats.
@nicolemcw - She's not a girl. She's a woman who's had 3 or 4 husbands in her lifetime, and is always quick to shoot me down and make me feel worse about myself. Shame on me? Yeah, shame on her. I can accept other people's views, when they make sense. Her first comment did, although in a condescending tone. The other comments though, forget it. She didn't get it.
I miss our chats too, but the amount of time you spend online (next to zero, almost) and the amount of hours I work (50+), we won't have time to. We'll be lucky to talk once a month on here.
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